FAQ

Since my first post announcing our planned adoption, I've had lots of good questions! I'm okay with that and will try my best to fill you in when it's appropriate. I completely understand the curiousity.

1. Where are you at in the process?
   We've been working on the application for the agency for almost two months. There is still quite a bit to go. Can't wait to be done and..well.. WAIT! Application (Forms, histories, fingerprints, health physicals, floor plans, pet records, etc, etc.). Home studies. Profile book goes live.
2. How do they find a baby?
   Birthmothers contact the group we're working with seeking to place their child with a family. She usually has a type of family she wants. A few profile books will be given to her to consider that match that criteria. If she doesn't like the books she's shown, she can look at more and more and more until she's found a family she's comfortable placing her baby with. Think about the decision she's about to make. Imagine if you had to find someone else to raise your child.. It's understandable it could take some time! We want to be considerate of that.
3. Will you get a baby from another country?
   We are seeking domestic adoption.
4. What age did you request for the child?
   That feels like a private question between us and the agency.
5. What do you guys agree to for race and gender?
   That, too, feels like one of those private questions.
6. How much does it cost?
   Although we are doing group funding, again, we're going to keep exact numbers to ourselves. UNLESS, you are seeking adoption, and are interested because of that. Happy to help where I can.
7. What's the normal wait time to get a baby?
   Two years is the average wait we're told.
8. What if your baby is born ill?
   Answer:What if your baby is born ill?
9. How long does the mother have to change her mind?
   The entire pregnancy. Then, once baby is born, she can sign a consent that is permanent, but not before 72 hours after birth. This is one reason we are likely to keep it to ourselves when/if we get a match until it's final.
10. Are you still going to try to conceive yourself?
    Yes, one day. Date undecided.

That's all I can think of for now. Ten is a good number to stop on, right? I love that everyone is so interested and supportive! We don't want to put everything out there, because it is still a very personal situation. Some of those questions really ask something a bit deeper than you might think at first glance. And, that's okay! I'll just answer what I feel is right. Some of these details will be our future child's very own story to tell one day, and I want him or her to have the option of sharing or not sharing all of the details. :)

 

 

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